Arlan Hamilton built a venture capital fund from the ground up, while homeless and living off of food stamps. Now she’s on the cover of Fast Company Magazine – and she has investing millions in startups run by people of color, women, and members of the LGBTQ community. Through pursuing her curiosity and passion, Arlan’s found a way to create a living and a life for herself and work on a really tough problem to work on: reconfiguring the ways that money and funding flow through these underrepresented and underserved populations. In this episode we also cover: Persistence forever pays. No matter how many no’s Arlan received, she shares the driving force behind her determination. We are all privileged in some way. Arlan has a beautiful perspective in how we can all share in that privilege without diminishing our own. We can all give ourselves strength and support by surrounding yourself people who are positive and motivational – even if that’s virtually through the internet. We discuss some of Arlan’s routines and her particularly interesting habit of writing her own future headlines. and lots more…. Enjoy and subscribe to the podcast below if you dig. Please give Arlan a shout on social […] The post Disruption, Reinvention, and Reimagining Silicon Valley with Arlan Hamilton appeared first on Chase Jarvis Photography. from https://www.chasejarvis.com/blog/disruption-reinvention-and-reimagining-silicon-valley-with-arlan-hamilton/
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When we found out that we were pregnant again in August 2019 after losing James in May of 2019, I worried about my body being able to do this all over again. My OB assured me that my body could handle it. She was more concerned for me emotionally than physically because of all of the stress that comes with growing another baby after experiencing one of the worst case scenarios just months before. Thankfully, this pregnancy has been everything that I hoped and prayed for. It has been my easiest pregnancy to date and I haven’t had any complications…. I don’t even have gestational diabetes like I did with Evy. There is a part of me that worries that my struggle and complications will come with birth… but then again, I have no reason to think that would be the case. I have never experienced a normal pregnancy and so I think I’m just automatically accustomed to assuming that I need to be ready for bad news. I don’t want to live in fear and so I’m constantly asking God to help me trust Him throughout my final weeks carrying this little boy. I say “little” boy but he’s been measuring in the 96% for a while now…. he’s not little. Most people I say that to say “Oh well they are always off with those numbers” and I agree…. but then I remind them that Evy was 9lbs 10oz. Suddenly their “Oh he’s probably not big” comments subside and they just say “Good luck”. haha Thankfully, unless I show signs of pre-eclampsia, he shows signs of distress or he turns breech, I will be able to wait to go into labor on my own and I’m praying for that. This entire journey has been such a gift to me. Every time that we leave our OB office with nothing but normal, good news, I’m amazed and so incredibly thankful. I may feel huge and tired and totally over being pregnant but I look at this beautiful images that my sweet friend Jill took at Big Spring Farm and I’m amazed that God has given us another baby….. who is healthy. Enjoy some of my favorites and thank you Jill for capturing this season of our lives for the third time!! Ps. These were taken at 30 weeks! The latest maternity portraits I’ve ever taken. Lets just say, it’s a little more flattering to take them earlier, especially with your third! But I’m just so thankful to have them done and that Jill could do them!!!
from http://katelynjamesblog.com/our-maternity-portraits-baby-alsop-number-3/ I recently watched sweet friends of ours walk through a sadly similar story. They lost a baby at 36 weeks and it was a complete shock. We lost a baby at 31 weeks and we knew we were going to lose him for 3 months. It’s hard to tell which story is more heartbreaking but what I’ve learned throughout this season of life is that valleys are valleys. You can’t really compare. Loss is different for everyone but the pain is still heavy and the heartache dwells deep within. As horrible as it is to feel like an “expert” at living through a stillbirth, there was something redemptive about being able to help our friends walk through the darkest days of their life. I have realized that because of my experience and my story, I have a voice and an opportunity to help those living through the pain of losing a baby. I can also help those who are watching a friend or family member lose a child and don’t know what to do. I get it. It’s so hard to know what to say. What do you do when someone you love has just found out that their baby isn’t going to survive or has passed away? What is too much? What is hurtful? What will actually help them? I can’t speak for every grieving parent. I know that every story and every mother is different. However, my hope is that this blog post will be a resource for friends and family members of someone who is losing a baby. I want to be able to share my experience and what I really appreciated and what was really hard for me so that I can save others from the unknowns of not knowing what to do. My hope is that this simple blog post will be shared with grieving moms who have similar stories to ours. Maybe just hearing thoughts and memories and realizations from a momma who has been in their shoes will be a gift to them and will help them put words and feelings to the chaos going on in their heart. Everything I say won’t resonate with every parent who is walking through a similar story to ours…. but maybe some things will stand out and they’ll be able to say “You know, I agree with that and I actually need that right now.” I remember being in the trenches of a fatal diagnosis, living day-to-day just waiting to lose him and then being in shock and exhausted after giving birth to Baby James. (If you don’t know Baby James’ full story, you can read more HERE & HERE). It was nearly impossible for me to express or comprehend what I needed during that season. I was honestly just trying to survive…. and in the midst of just trying to survive, everyone wanted to know what I needed and I didn’t have a clue. As I think back on my story and the continuing grief that I feel today, 10 months later, I think there are several categories of things that I needed. I needed different things spiritually, emotionally and physically. Not only did I need different things in these different categories, but I needed different things in these different categories during EACH PHASE of my journey with James. When we found out, when we were just waiting, when I was in labor, leaving the hospital and coming home without a baby, starting to figure out life without the baby that I lost…. in every season, I required different things. I know, it sounds so high-maintenance… but when you go through something this traumatic, that’s exactly what it is. It’s complex, it’s hard to understand and it is high-maintenance. This is what has led me to the OVERARCHING thing that I needed in this season…. and that’s GRACE. I’m going to share what I needed physically, emotionally and spiritually…. but I can’t get into the details of all of that without sharing the absolute need of GRACE. First, I needed GRACE with myself. Another mom who lost a child told me that I needed to remove the word “SHOULD” from my vocabulary during this season of life. She couldn’t have been more right. It’s easy to start wrestling with an internal voice that says… “You should be journaling more while he’s still alive…. you should be more upset today, think about what’s happening to you… you should be talking to Evy more about James while you’re still pregnant… you should cherish being pregnant and the fact that he’s still alive instead of just wanting this to all be over… you should be getting more done… you shouldn’t be getting so much done, you’re losing your baby….” Shoulds, shoulds and more shoulds. The truth is, you can’t “Should” yourself when you’re in the midst of a crisis like this. No one can tell you what’s normal… what you should feel… what you should be doing. It’s all an unpredictable roller coaster and it’s so freeing to let go of the “shoulds” and to rid yourself of expectations. Secondly, no one else should be “Shoulding” you!!! This is hard because those that love you and are watching you grieve and suffer, they only want to help you! Sometimes help can come in the form of “you should try this…. or you shouldn’t dwell on that… or you should consider this”. I am thankful that I didn’t experience much of this at all but I have heard horror stories of women whose friends and family…. who have never lived through losing a child or anything close to their story… were telling them what they SHOULD be doing and honestly, they have no right to. Unless they have walked through this kind of pain, they can’t “should” you in any way… even when their intentions are that they are trying to HELP you. You have enough going on… you don’t need outside voices telling you what to do and how you should be handling this. GRACE is a beautiful thing and not only did I need it from myself, I needed it from other people too. If you’re walking through the unimaginable, you may do and say and feel some things that are hurtful to others. You may have meltdowns and yell things you never meant to yell. You may be insensitive and harsh and you didn’t even realize it. It’s important for your friends and family members to have GRACE with you and realize that you’re living through one of the worst things any woman (and family) can experience and you’re far from being your normal self…. and that’s ok. I’m so thankful for my family and the grace they showed me during this entire season. It’s hard on everyone… but it’s especially hard on the mom who is carrying the child who isn’t expected to survive. There are emotional battles, mental battles, and physical battles to deal with and it’s incredibly difficult. My hope is that this post will shed some light on what life looked like for me during our season of struggle and loss. If I had read something like this in the midst of our journey, I think it would have helped me feel more normal, encouraged and understood. What did I need PHYSICALLY?
What did I need EMOTIONALLY?
What did I need Spiritually?I think it’s important to share that what I needed spiritually wasn’t something that I needed from other people. If you know someone walking through a similar story to ours and you want to encourage them, maybe sending them the playlist at the bottom of this post would be a good way to do that! It’s subtle way to remind them of God’s faithfulness but not speak into their life in a way that could be hard for them to hear.
There are probably many other things that I could share, but I’m going to leave it at this for now. I know this was one of my longest blog posts to date. It’s long and intense and heavy to read…. but it’s an outpouring of my heart and my desire to help others know how to love their friends through a story similar to ours. I hope that this blog post will be shared with moms who received devastating news like ours and that they will find encouragement and clarity and hope from my experience. I hope that friends and family members of those carrying babies with a fatal diagnosis will have a clearer understanding of how to love and serve them during the hardest season of their life. I know that every woman is different…every story is different… and every family will desire different things when faced with an unimaginable reality… but my hope is that this post will start discussions about what is wanted and needed. I think the most appropriate way to end this post is to thank all of our sweet friends and family members for loving us and caring for us in the midst of this incredibly hard year of our life. We didn’t walk through any of this alone and I’m so thankful and grateful for the community that surrounded us through it all.
Our “James” Playlist on Spotify Our letter to James after his diagnosis from http://katelynjamesblog.com/helping-a-friend-through-fatal-fetal-diagnosis-and-stillbirth/ After over 7 years of educating photographers, I have found that not EVERYONE grows and improves wedding to wedding. A few years ago, I started noticing that it was actually VERY common for photographers to leave their wedding days feeling defeated with their confidence crushed. Instead of overcoming obstacles, they were shut down by them. This is a scary pattern. I can’t imagine what it would feel like to leave my weddings and feeling like I didn’t make a step forward in my business!! It would feel like I was in a constant state of decline and that is far from motivating!!! That’s why I’m excited to show you a FREE 8 MINUTE VIDEO from a wedding that I photographed recently. We help thousands of photographers grow and overcome obstacles each month by showing what real-life situations look like at our very own wedding days!! This month, we decided to share a sneak peek with you all!! I’m sharing three quick and simple educational moments from Brandon and Jessica’s wedding day in the video below!! Enjoy!!! Now, I realize this is only an 8 minute video! This only shows you a few brief moments of the wedding day. However, our KJ ALL ACCESS Members receive monthly episodes that include footage from the ENTIRE day! They see me fail, they see me succeed, they see me come up with ways to overcome obstacles, they watch me interact with clients and other vendors, they watch me find good light and they see me use all of my posing techniques in real-life situations!!! Photographers are calling this a VISUAL LEARNER’S DREAM!!!!! And we have to agree! There is nothing else like this and it’s changing the way that photographers are learning to grow in their technical skill and their confidence on their wedding days and at shoots!! Whether you’re a veteran and you need new inspiration for your next wedding or you’re a brand new photographer who wants a virtual second shooting experience, KJ ALL ACCESS episodes were made for you!!!! Not only am I teaching you through watching me shoot behind the scenes, I’m also including (And this is BRAND NEW!!) an editing training video each month as well!! This means you can watch me EDIT some of the images that you actually watched me SHOOT!!! So fun!! You can join KJ ALL ACCESS HERE for only $29/mo!!! from http://katelynjamesblog.com/free-training-video-three-tips-for-a-wedding-day/ Rainn Wilson is best known for his legendary role as Dwight in TV’s award-winning show “The Office,” but he’s also a movie actor, a best selling author, the founder of media company Soul Pancake, founder a non profit called Lide Haiti, an amazing human….and a self-professed sci-fi and fantasy nerd! In this episode Rainn takes us on journey through his early life and into his ideas on art and creativity, hard work, parenting and spirituality. We spend some quality time around the lessons he learned trying to make it as an actor and the difficult years that preceded his breakthrough. And we also go deep into what inspires his work away from acting – his family, SoulPancake, and why he founded LIDÈ Haiti, a non-profit organization helping young women in Haiti via the power of creativity. A few more hot topics: Rainn never earned more than $20,000 acting in the first 9 years of his career. His advice? Keep cost of living low, do side jobs, and …. tune in to check it out ;). We examine Rainn’s personal challenges parenting from a place of privilege while simultaneously aiming to foster hard work, motivation, and drive. Rainn shares his spiritual […] The post Rainn Wilson on Creativity, Faith and Making Work that Matters appeared first on Chase Jarvis Photography. from https://www.chasejarvis.com/blog/rainn-wilson-on-creativity-faith-and-making-work-that-matters/ I recently watched sweet friends of ours walk through a sadly similar story. They lost a baby at 36 weeks and it was a complete shock. We lost a baby at 31 weeks and we knew we were going to lose him for 3 months. It’s hard to tell which story is more heartbreaking but what I’ve learned throughout this season of life is that valleys are valleys. You can’t really compare. Loss is different for everyone but the pain is still heavy and the heartache dwells deep within. As horrible as it is to feel like an “expert” at living through a stillbirth, there was something redemptive about being able to help our friends walk through the darkest days of their life. I have realized that because of my experience and my story, I have a voice and an opportunity to help those living through the pain of losing a baby. I can also help those who are watching a friend or family member lose a child and don’t know what to do. I get it. It’s so hard to know what to say. What do you do when someone you love has just found out that their baby isn’t going to survive or has passed away? What is too much? What is hurtful? What will actually help them? I can’t speak for every grieving parent. I know that every story and every mother is different. However, my hope is that this blog post will be a resource for friends and family members of someone who is losing a baby. I want to be able to share my experience and what I really appreciated and what was really hard for me so that I can save others from the unknowns of not knowing what to do. My hope is that this simple blog post will be shared with grieving moms who have similar stories to ours. Maybe just hearing thoughts and memories and realizations from a momma who has been in their shoes will be a gift to them and will help them put words and feelings to the chaos going on in their heart. Everything I say won’t resonate with every parent who is walking through a similar story to ours…. but maybe some things will stand out and they’ll be able to say “You know, I agree with that and I actually need that right now.” I remember being in the trenches of a fatal diagnosis, living day-to-day just waiting to lose him and then being in shock and exhausted after giving birth to Baby James. (If you don’t know Baby James’ full story, you can read more HERE & HERE). It was nearly impossible for me to express or comprehend what I needed during that season. I was honestly just trying to survive…. and in the midst of just trying to survive, everyone wanted to know what I needed and I didn’t have a clue. As I think back on my story and the continuing grief that I feel today, 10 months later, I think there are several categories of things that I needed. I needed different things spiritually, emotionally and physically. Not only did I need different things in these different categories, but I needed different things in these different categories during EACH PHASE of my journey with James. When we found out, when we were just waiting, when I was in labor, leaving the hospital and coming home without a baby, starting to figure out life without the baby that I lost…. in every season, I required different things. I know, it sounds so high-maintenance… but when you go through something this traumatic, that’s exactly what it is. It’s complex, it’s hard to understand and it is high-maintenance. This is what has led me to the OVERARCHING thing that I needed in this season…. and that’s GRACE. I’m going to share what I needed physically, emotionally and spiritually…. but I can’t get into the details of all of that without sharing the absolute need of GRACE. First, I needed GRACE with myself. Another mom who lost a child told me that I needed to remove the word “SHOULD” from my vocabulary during this season of life. She couldn’t have been more right. It’s easy to start wrestling with an internal voice that says… “You should be journaling more while he’s still alive…. you should be more upset today, think about what’s happening to you… you should be talking to Evy more about James while you’re still pregnant… you should cherish being pregnant and the fact that he’s still alive instead of just wanting this to all be over… you should be getting more done… you shouldn’t be getting so much done, you’re losing your baby….” Shoulds, shoulds and more shoulds. The truth is, you can’t “Should” yourself when you’re in the midst of a crisis like this. No one can tell you what’s normal… what you should feel… what you should be doing. It’s all an unpredictable roller coaster and it’s so freeing to let go of the “shoulds” and to rid yourself of expectations. Secondly, no one else should be “Shoulding” you!!! This is hard because those that love you and are watching you grieve and suffer, they only want to help you! Sometimes help can come in the form of “you should try this…. or you shouldn’t dwell on that… or you should consider this”. I am thankful that I didn’t experience much of this at all but I have heard horror stories of women whose friends and family…. who have never lived through losing a child or anything close to their story… were telling them what they SHOULD be doing and honestly, they have no right to. Unless they have walked through this kind of pain, they can’t “should” you in any way… even when their intentions are that they are trying to HELP you. You have enough going on… you don’t need outside voices telling you what to do and how you should be handling this. GRACE is a beautiful thing and not only did I need it from myself, I needed it from other people too. If you’re walking through the unimaginable, you may do and say and feel some things that are hurtful to others. You may have meltdowns and yell things you never meant to yell. You may be insensitive and harsh and you didn’t even realize it. It’s important for your friends and family members to have GRACE with you and realize that you’re living through one of the worst things any woman (and family) can experience and you’re far from being your normal self…. and that’s ok. I’m so thankful for my family and the grace they showed me during this entire season. It’s hard on everyone… but it’s especially hard on the mom who is carrying the child who isn’t expected to survive. There are emotional battles, mental battles, and physical battles to deal with and it’s incredibly difficult. My hope is that this post will shed some light on what life looked like for me during our season of struggle and loss. If I had read something like this in the midst of our journey, I think it would have helped me feel more normal, encouraged and understood. What did I need PHYSICALLY?
What did I need EMOTIONALLY?
What did I need Spiritually?I think it’s important to share that what I needed spiritually wasn’t something that I needed from other people. If you know someone walking through a similar story to ours and you want to encourage them, maybe sending them the playlist at the bottom of this post would be a good way to do that! It’s subtle way to remind them of God’s faithfulness but not speak into their life in a way that could be hard for them to hear.
Whew. I know this was one of my longest blog posts to date. It’s long and intense and heavy to read…. but it’s an outpouring of my heart and my desire to help others know how to love their friends through a story similar to ours. I hope that this blog post will be shared with moms who received devastating news like ours and that they will find encouragement and clarity and hope from my experience. I hope that friends and family members of those carrying babies with a fatal diagnosis will have a clearer understanding of how to love and serve them during the hardest season of their life. I know that every woman is different…every story is different… and every family will desire different things when faced with an unimaginable reality… but my hope is that this post will start discussions about what is wanted and needed. I think the most appropriate way to end this post is to thank all of our sweet friends and family members for loving us and caring for us in the midst of this incredibly hard year of our life. We didn’t walk through any of this alone and I’m so thankful and grateful for the community that surrounded us through it all.
Our “James” Playlist on Spotify Our letter to James after his diagnosis from http://katelynjamesblog.com/helping-a-friend-through-fatal-fetal-diagnosis-and-stillbirth/ Mindset is everything. And today on the podcast, I wanted to share a strong point of view on MONEY – something that’s a struggle for most creators and entrepreneurs. Enter: Tonya Rapley! Tonya is the author of The Money Manual: A Practical Guide To Help You Succeed on Your Financial Journey. She’s been called the “New Face of Wealth Building” by Black Enterprise Magazine, and one of the “Top 10 Most Influential Women in Personal Finance.”. She’s also the founder of the award-winning site, My Fab Finance which is core to her mission is to help younger generations own their personal power and break the cycle of living paycheck to paycheck In this episode we cover: What is a healthy money mindset? The power of words on our psyche – whether they are negative or positive. How to grow awareness around that negative self talk that might be working against us and how to change it Developing rituals that help keep you on track – financially and psychologically Daily tactics on seeing abundance instead of limitations Let’s end those classic creator + money mindsets we hear like “starving artist” or “why don’t get a real job” or “that’s nice but you need something to fall […] The post Reset Your Money Mindset with Tonya Rapley appeared first on Chase Jarvis Photography. from https://www.chasejarvis.com/blog/reset-your-money-mindset-with-tonya-rapley/ A journey of loyalty and deep faith that led to a heartwarming celebration of love in a Delhi wedding You know it’s love when you cannot imagine your life without a person, no matter what the distance or situation is. Kabir and Anuroop’s journey is one of adoration, loyalty, and deep faith. Kabir has lived […] The post A Delhi Wedding Photography Story | Anuroop+Kabir appeared first on Twogether Studios. from https://arjunkarthaphotography.com/delhi-wedding-photography-story-anuroop-kabir/ A journey of loyalty and deep faith that led to a heartwarming celebration of love in a Delhi wedding You know it’s love when you cannot imagine your life without a person, no matter what the distance or situation is. Kabir and Anuroop’s journey is one of adoration, loyalty, and deep faith. Kabir has lived […] The post A Delhi Wedding Photography Story | Anuroop+Kabir appeared first on Twogether Studios. from https://arjunkarthaphotography.com/delhi-wedding-photography-story-anuroop-kabir/ Today’s podcast is a hero’s journey of sorts – featuring Tom Bilyeu, founder the billion-dollar nutrition brand Quest Nutrition and Impact Theory podcast and content agency. This episode takes us over the hills and through valleys of Tom’s career – from hiding in soul crushing jobs and destroying his health with crushing anxiety to personal transformation and meteoric entrepreneurial rise. We chat about neuroplasticity and how Tom has rewired his brain, undoing negative thought patterns and replacing them with healthy, positive loops. Tom oozes honesty and passion -sure to resonate in your own pursuit of your highest self. In this episode: Passion isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you need to discover, cultivate and nurture over time. We get Tom’s secrets for approaching this. Humans are insanely good at adapting to their environment – not just physically but mentally. Just by thinking differently you can rewire your brain. Tom drops some strategies to help you shape your next chapter Cold cold water therapy – one of my favorite things. Tom shares his experience of exploring this himself, and we geek out about what we’ve both learned so far and plenty more… Enjoy and subscribe to the podcast below if […] The post Your Mind Can Transform Your Life with Tom Bilyeu appeared first on Chase Jarvis Photography. from https://www.chasejarvis.com/blog/your-mind-can-transform-your-life-with-tom-bilyeu/ |
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